Day 2: Have a hearty breakfast

Tofu scramble with beans in chili sauce

When I started reading “The lean” I googled if others had tried to follow this book – more importantly, did it work? Did people loose weight, feel more energetic, happier? I only found one blog by Jenni Dunning who wrote about it. She managed to get to day 9 and then there’s silence and no words about weight loss. So does this plan suggested in this book work? Well, the vote is still out. The book contains 30 suggestions, and I’m not so sure I will be able to get to Day 9 myself, come to think of it.

The task of the day is then:

  1. Drink enough water
  2. Eat a hearty breakfast

Yes, I have to follow the previous days suggestions as well. I really liked this one because I don’t eat enough. Whenever I have lost weight I have followed the same path: Eat more, more often. Considering I had been constantly hungry for the last week, I decided to eat 3 slices of bread, tofu scramble and tomato beans. Loved it! For lunch I ate a bowl of oatmeal with an apple. Now, these meals contain so much nutrition it lasted a whole day. I only got a bit hungry in the evening, and didn’t bother with dinner some days.

This glorious situation only lasted for a little while, my body got used to a big breakfast and eating the same thing every day got a bit uninteresting. But still, more than two weeks later I eat the same big breakfast, and my body likes it. I’m not uncomfortably hungry any more and the breakfast lasts longer than two hours.

From the book:

Doesn’t skipping breakfast cut down on calories? Short answer? No. You actually need the calories first thing in the morning to jump-start your metabolism. Skipping them will do you no good, as you will only be hungrier and eat more later. (…)

When you eat whole grains, the fiber causes your food to be digested and absorbed into your bloodstream slowly. This helps you to keep your blood sugar in a normal range without getting too high or too low, thus no wild cravings. (…)

If you drink a glass of water every time before you eat, you’ll feel full quicker because some of your stomach volume is taken up by calorie-free water. Well, you can think of fiber as water in food form. Health benefits without any calories.

A note on eggs:

Did you know that one egg has as much cholesterol as an 8-ounce steak? One egg has more cholesterol than a double Quarter Pounder with cheese, and eating one or more per day ups your risk of type 2 diabetes by 77 per cent for women and 58 per cent for men (this from a 2008 study of more than 57,000 people). (…)

A new National Institute of Health-sponsored study appeared in September of 2011, reporting that men who eat 2.5 eggs or more per week have an 81 per cent higher chance of developing lethal prostate cancer.

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Hulu Plus is now on Apple TV

I have been waiting for this: Hulu Plus is now available on Apple TV. So, no I can enjoy both my netflix and hulu plus account. Unfortunately, I’m not so happy with Hulu Plus. It’s an annoyance that many shows can’t be streamed, you have to see it using a browser. Then Hulu Plus doesn’t have a good enough selection of shows. Then they only show the last five episodes from a series, and you have no access to prior seasons and episodes. This isn’t good enough. So why will I continue throwing money at them?

Because they actually do show latest episodes of series. Netflix has more shows and films that are current, but the series is only one season at a time. There is no access to newly aired episodes. Hulu Plus and Netflix fills two different segments. I would have loved that one service provided all of it, but that’s just not how it goes.

So then I’m only left with one option: throw money after both of these services. That’s fine by me.

There is a third option: ITunes. They have an even better selection than these two services (actually, it’s excellent!), but they cost a lot more. Then you have to purchase (or rent) a movie or a series. It costs a lot and then you are bogged down by DRM. That is not a problem as long as you only want to watch it using Apple TV and are willing to spend the money involved – but I’m not. The moment DRM is involved – I get a bit grumpy. Especially when they want a lot of money as well. Then they are not getting my money. Not on this.

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Day 1: Drink water

So what to do when you’re not motivated to loose weight and can’t really stand the thought of dieting? You google, of course! As a vegetarian I then googled for vegetarian weight loss books, and sure enough – Kathy Freston came up with her book “The Lean“. I have had run ins with her before. I had a period in my life where I evaluated pretty much every aspect of my life – including my love life. I came across her book Expect a Miracle: 7 Spiritual Steps to Finding the Right Relationship. If you want to find “The One”, this is the book I used and it did wonders. I must admit, I have a bit of a love affair with Kathy Freston. She writes in a way that I find really inspiring and easy digestible.

So what made “The Lean” sing to me? I mentioned it a bit in my “That Damn Weight” post. I don’t want a diet regime, counting calories and what not. I need a lifestyle change, one I will like.

The Lean” is about loosing weight by crowding out bad habits and replacing them with good ones. She comes up with changes to make, day by day. And now I’m on day 1.

So – drinking water. I can do that. I know this is a good step for me, because I have had countless headaches because of not drinking enough water. I’m constantly dehydrated. Actually, by the time I’m writing this I’m actually 14 days into the books and have followed this step for about two weeks. This is the one step I have been able to follow most of the time. She comes up with a regime of drinking two glass of water before breakfast, before lunch, after lunch, before dinner and what not.

Scratch that. I don’t know about you, but making too many rules no matter how good your arguments are – doesn’t work. This is what I did: I have a glass bottle that takes about 1 liter. I fill it up once in the morning and once more whenever I’ve finished that bottle. That way I’m able to drink about 1.5 litres everyday.  That is beside whatever coffee or tea I drink during the day. That works for me, and probably every one else as well, because it’s easy. Though, it wasn’t easy enough so I just started using a 2 litre water pitcher from ikea.

What came as a surprise for me was that drinking 1.5 liters of water every day wasn’t enough. I’ve still had two major headaches because I haven’t been drinking enough water. Sure, once was after I went jogging for about an hour and the other one after going here and there on errands. I was drinking more water than I have done for years, and still it wasn’t enough to keep the headaches back. That goes to show that this one is important for me to follow.

From the book:

A 2010 study published in the journal Obesity found that drinking 17 ounces of water (about 2 cups) before each main meal (a practice known as ‘pre-loading’ in clinical circles) helped significantly reduce participants’ caloric intake. Along with calorie reduction, participants who drank 2 cups of water before meals lost an average of 5 pounds of fat more than those who didn’t over the course of the twelve-week study.

Hydration is critical because it keeps your metabolism working efficiently and helps keep your metabolic rate up. You’ll burn more calories during the day if you’re hydrated.

Staying hydrated also keeps your body’s biological processes working at their fullest potential, and this includes your metabolism.

And there are two more benefits to drinking water: decreased fluid retention and the more efficient removal of cellular waste from your body. (…) Drinking lots of water discourages your body from holding on to water weight.


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That damn weight

A selection of cook and dietsbooks in my book shelves – I have more than these

A couple of weeks ago I reached a weight level I never thought I would reach (except when I was pregnant, but that doesn’t count). So damn! What now? Twice I have lost a lot of weight (15 kilos and more) and twice I have gained that weight back and more. Result:

I’m through with the word diet and dieting.
I’m through with the word weight loss.
I will not count another calorie if my life depended on it.
I feel like strangling every person who says it’s about “calories in and calories out”. That person is clueless. You can only state that it’s about calories in and out, when you have it all figured out and are showing off a nice body to feel superior to those who haven’t solved the weight puzzle. Most likely that person never had a serious weight problem.

Whenever there is a discussion about weight loss and what’s healthy and not, I stay clear of it. I have a ton of knowledge about the subject because it’s an interest I have – especially in terms of research on weight loss which makes the statement “calories in and out” ridiculous. And there is finally more and more research now – serious research. Not only on the physical aspects of weight loss, but also about self discipline which can be viewed upon as a muscle that get’s tired. People subconsciously think fat folks don’t have self discipline, but again, it’s ignorance on their part.

I have come so far as an happy amateur that I understand when the different weight loss diets are bullocks. Like low carb, Grete Roede, Atkins, whatever. But I haven’t solved the puzzle. I have only come to the point where I know bullshit when I hear it.

So what to do when I’m not motivated for loosing weight? I weigh more that I want, but there is no chance in hell I will go on a diet to loose weight. Diet – the word makes me shiver, and not in a good way.

Well, I have known for a long time that if I was to loose weight I had to change my lifestyle. But you don’t change your lifestyle unless you replace a bad habit with another habit that you like. Let me say it again, you have to replace a habit with something you LIKE. If not, then time will make those pounds go right back.

Then I discovered “The Lean” by Kathy Freston. Kathy is a vegan and health activist, without any schooling on the subject, but loves research more than I do. She is talking a language I agree with – it’s not about giving up something, but about crowding out. Finding alternatives that you like and are healthier. So I have already started on it – so hopefully I will write more about it and my experience with it.

So this is my take – I want to feel healthier, I want to have more energy, feeling better. That is my motivation.

But no way in hell will I go on a weight loss regime. No, I’m done with that.

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Life phases

Rocky road up towards Lifjell in Rogaland, Norway

I have met people that have just stopped in their personal growth. Okey, they might had some personality disorders going on, but it really is a symptom of not being able to change. In the blame-game it’s always somebody else’s fault, and there is a lack of taking responsibility in the situation. It can happen when somebody have accused me of some poor qualities that they themselves have, lies, trying to drag me into their attention seeking habits, have greater expectations from me than they have on themselves, interpret my behavior in ridiculous ways.

Now, I have probably done all these things towards others as well.

As I have gotten older and gotten a better understanding of myself, I have become better at not accepting bad behavior from others, and trying to improve mine. My own life is too interesting to let others drag me into their own troubles. What I want is mature, mentally healthy people. That’s what I have been seeking, and I found some great people with a lot of humor as well. I also have become more attuned to people’s (and my own) shortcomings. I find it hard to deal with.

I love stories about people growing. but I don’t care much about stories where somebody have done something wrong, now regrets and tells a heart wrenching story. What is it about our need to celebrate those who commits wrongdoings? Take Steve Jobs who has done great things for design and usability in technology today. His poor ability to treat people decently is well known. His achievements is great, but he is no ideal for me.

No, give me people that does something great AND treat people good at the same time. Take NFL commissioner Roger Goodell who has to deal with 32 owners of NFL teams who all thinks they can do a better job than him. Still, Roger Goodell manages to do the job, and does it good. Or take Sergio Marchionne who resurrected Chrysler and Fiat.When you look at him you wouldn’t think much of him – but he’s CEO of both Chrysler and Fiat. Yes, two large companies and he saved both companies from bankruptcy. Now that’s people I want to learn more from.

I love those stories because growing is what my life is about. I am continually learning to become a better person. I have found myself learning a new lesson, reach a plateau where I celebrate the lesson I have learned, and then something new happens and a new area where I have to grow comes up. I have caught myself thinking “What more can I possibly learn now?” only to experience that I’m only at the beginning. It happens again and again.

Dealing with a baby that had colic was hell, and all I wanted was to be everywhere else than home. I wanted to be with people and talk to people, doing stuff, be outside. That has been my default need for as many years as I can remember. I have been restless and wanted things to happen all the time. I was active externally, and if I weren’t active externally there was a lot going on internally. When everything settled down after the colic and other stuff, I suddenly found myself in a position I haven’t been in before.

All I wanted was to be at home, doing nothing. Not speaking to anybody, not going outside. Just at home in the coach, relaxing. I thought it was just a phase after everything I had gone through, but it continued even after life had normalized. I have always been hungry for things to happen and I used to become a bit depressed if time passed and everything was same old, same old. I needed to experience something new every once in a while to feel alive.

Not now. I have never been this “relaxed” before. I just want to be at home, with my family and everything else doesn’t matter much. I loved going to cafe’s and have a mocca – now I prefer being at home. On the bright side, it saves me some money.

I’ve settled down – but a bit uneasy. Because in that relaxed space I use more time on my religious beliefs. I meditate more, read more. In this new and relaxed state a new need is growing. The need to use my life for a spiritual end and that’s a difficult path to take when I have a family and a job. A need to be in a temple and be with like-minded people. That’s not going to happen any time soon.

Changes can be difficult and scary. I wonder how I’m going to balance this new need. It’s a new change, one I haven’t gone through before. I know it’s going to be a good change, though. All changes are – even the hard ones.

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One of my first memories are of mischief.

I was about two or three years old and in kindergarten. All the children was outside playing. I looked around me and made sure that nobody saw me. Then I opened the gate and ran out. Nobody saw me leave, and I ran down the path to the building where my mother and father worked. I didn’t want anybody to catch me – I was on a field trip.

I didn’t even make it up to the workdesk, but somehow I told the receptionist that I wanted to talk to my dad.
“What is the name of your dad?”, the receptionist asked.
I didn’t understand the question, so I just repeated “Dad”.
I don’t know how they found out who he was, but he came for me. I must have been very lucky because the company had thousands of employees.

I spent the day with both my parents. They worked in the same company.

Many years later I was told that they hadn’t thought of notifying the kindergarten about my (dis)appearance.

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Fast talking, slow listeners

I was looking down the aisle at the ecological store I visit now and then. They have a great selection of vegetarian products and vegetables and I found tempeh and seitan for the first time.

I was paying for the goods when the shopkeeper asked me “Do you want a bag”?

This is a fairly common question that most people know the answer for immediately, but my head was spinning. I already had one bag in my hand, would my groceries fit there and was the groceries I had purchased too heavy for that bag? I also had a backsack, so may be I could put some groceries there. All this questions and decisions was going through my head so I think I took seven seconds before I finally answered no.

“I took some time answering that question, but I had to figure out if I wanted to use the bag I have or not,” I told the shopkeeper.

“Yes, I could see that you were processing the question.”

“My boyfriend sometimes feel resigned because I can spend a long time answering the simplest questions like if I want tea. But I need to feel whether my body want tea or not.”

“Taking some time to think things over isn’t such a bad thing, may be we should do it more,” he answers.

“People talked slower before. We don’t have to go longer than to our grandmothers, and we will hear that today’s generation is talking very fast.”

He nodded like he understood what I was saying.

Then he said, “may be they were better listeners as well.”

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Exhaustingly unexhausted

I should be sleeping now, and I was tired when I went to bed. My brain wouldn’t let me sleep. It was creating sentences that wasn’t sentences, but they want to exist in this world. So here I sit, with the computer on when I should be sleeping and I’m constructing sentences instead. It’s like I’m becoming an addict – just to something that has no narcotic effects at all. I need to write. I’m unable to sleep because I haven’t written something all day.

How many times have I been unable to sleep because I’m angry at something or someone? The situation just plays out in my head again and again, and the emotions play along. It’s impossible to fall asleep when your angry and the adrenaline is raking through the body. I create sentences of the wrongdoings and I’m so wonderfully righteous. Like I would never act badly or say hurtful things.

But there is no adrenaline in my body now, only a need to write. Anything, it doesn’t even have to make sense as long as I’m writing. I don’t have to work through the sentences and try to make them better, just get the words out. Who cares about content? Not my head.

The mind has an agenda of its own and I’m unable to control it. So I write even though sleep is my number one priority next to rest. I have had a hellish four months. I have gone through 2 operations in two months. This is what I have been through:

C-section, colic, milk allergy, chronic gallstones, gallbladder operation. This happened all in two months. After the gallbladder operation I had one week where things started to get normal, then Espen got a really bad dental infection (a small operation was performed on him). It was too soon after everything that had happened, so I was back to breaking down again. Christmas came and during christmas I got some help with Simon and got to relax a little bit even though it’s not the same as being home.

When we finally came home we had one week of normality before Espen had an eye operation. Really, I’m not kidding you. In between four months both me and Espen has had two surgeries each, colic, milk allergy and christmas.

What does it mean to break down? I wondered about that because I really wanted to. I have probably cried more these four months than I have in my whole life. When I called The Norwegian Health Economics Administration (HELFO) in the beginning of January and found out that the hospital hadn’t sent papers for coverage of Simons milk allergy prescription I broke down crying for thirty minutes. As I was crying I knew that what had happened didn’t matter at all. The money we had spent would be repayed, it was only a matter of asking the hospital to send the correct forms (again). But it was one more thing that was going wrong – and everything was going wrong. All the time. During these four months I have only had two weeks of normality, and that is nowhere enough to be okay again. During those two weeks I felt great, but something would happen that get me off balance again. It’s like I’ve been climbing a steep hill that never ends.

And here I sit with a great need to sleep, but I’m wide awake because I need to write. Espen is in recovery from the eye surgery, and we are into the one week where things are getting normal again. I’m wondering what will happen next. Will I only get one week of normality again, or is the cycle broken now?

What does it really mean to break down? I have cried a lot, but I don’t understand how one breaks down. Because no matter how much happens, I deal with it. I have known people who for some reason have been unable to let go of the past, but whatever has happened it’s over but they keep on going about it in their heads. They relive it many times a day, but it’s all in their heads.

For me the mental part is over. It’s my body that somehow are still exhausted, but at the same time I’m not. I need a lot of rest for the moment, so I stay at home and read a lot. I usually need a lot of impulses and activities to be satisfied, but now I have moved in the other direction. I take as much rest as I can at home with Simon. I should be utterly exhausted, but I have energy for what I need to do and more. I’m fine, even happy.

And now my head is calm. Good night, sweet dreams!

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Hvor ble det av personligheten?

Vi har vel alle hørt klisjeen om at når kvinner får barn, så går alle tanker og energi til den nye babyen i huset. Plutselig så følger man med på de underligste og lite delikate ting som fargen på avføringen til babyen, hvordan kvitte seg med snørr, feber og utslett. I barselsgruppen så er 90% av samtalen knyttet til babyen, og jeg begynner å lure på om disse jentene har andre interesser. Vi presset vel ikke vekk interesser, venner og hobbyer når vi fødte? Eller… basert på samtalene i barselsgruppen så skulle jeg nesten tro det.

Det var en dag jeg spurte barselsgruppen om de hadde noen interesser utenom barna. Det ble helt stille i flere sekunder. Så sier den ene kvinnen: Ikke se på meg. Jeg har tre barn.

Men jeg nekter å bli kjedelig. Jeg vil ikke være en av de som kun snakker om barn fordi jeg har en baby i huset. På tross av det så tenker jeg for det meste på babyting. Det er så mye som må ordnes, tenner som kommer og hva som finnes av lindring, hva slags mat jeg kan gi ungen når han begynner å vise interesse for noe annet enn melk, og ikke minst hva som er normalt at ungen skal sove om natten.

Men hva har jeg gjort for å ta vare på mine interesser? Og hva var mine interesser igjen?

Jeg husker ikke, men jeg har lyst til å begynne å trene selv om jeg ikke gjorde det før jeg ble gravid en gang. Jeg abonnerer på flere blader, og skal jeg få med meg hva de inneholder så må jeg notere det ned. Jeg har derimot lest alle artikler jeg kommer over om Lysbakkens meninger om amming, barselsgrupper og pappapermisjon. Før jeg ble gravid, så ville ikke disse temaene ha blitt registrert i hjernebarken en gang. Før jeg fikk baby hadde jeg ikke tid til tv-programmer som gikk på dagtid. Nå kan jeg godt diskutere Dr. Phil med deg, og jeg vil legge følelser i diskusjonen.

Jeg må innrømme det, jeg har blitt en kjedeligere person.

Jeg har ikke energi til å gjøre så mye med det heller.

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Deppa etter barselsgruppe

Det hadde gått 2 1/2 måned siden jeg hadde født den lille terroristen, og endelig skulle jeg på barselsgruppe og møte andre jenter i samme situasjon. Jeg kom flyttende til Stavanger for et år siden, så på den tiden har jeg gått for meg selv og fortvilet. Det blir ikke mange intellektuelle samtaler når man går alene hver dag, og har man en unge med kolikk så sitter man med en haug med spørsmål i den første tiden.

Sakte, men sikkert kom jentene sigende inn, åtte stykker. Det første helsesøsteren begynner å snakke om er hvordan ammingen hadde gått, og jeg er stille. Jentene snakker om smerter, og en av de hadde et ganske ille tilfelle av brystbetennelse. Selv fikk jeg aldri terroristen til å ta til puppen, og fullpumpet i 7 slitsomme uker. Jeg sleit ut en brystpumpe, fant ut at en annen brystpumpe på markedet er den rene svindelen, fant en tredje elektrisk brystpumpe som var fantastisk og prøvde en utmerket manuell pumpe. Det var bare en annen jente i gruppen som var i samme situasjon som meg.

Så tok helsesøsteren opp fødselen som tema – og jeg ble bare enda mer stille. Rundt meg kom historiene, og igjen så skjønte jeg at jeg hadde en kjip fødsel. Hun ene hadde holdt på i 12 timer før hun fødde. Da helsesøsteren spurte meg hvordan det hadde gått sa jeg som sant var at det hadde ikke gått så bra. Jeg hadde rier i 18 timer, og hadde bare 5 cm åpning da jordmødrene og legene bestemte seg for å ta keisersnitt. Helsesøsteren sier at det går bare noen uker før de fleste har “glemt” fødselen og gjerne vil ha flere barn. I affekt sier jeg at jeg vil heller bli sterilisert enn å bli gravid igjen. Det slår meg ikke før mange timer etterpå at det var kanskje ikke tingen å si blant en haug jenter som er i lykketåken over det nye barnet.

For også her er jeg litt utenfor – ikke som alle andre. Det var ingen som gråt og var fullstendig utslitt, og spurte om dette var normalt. Ingen spurte om hvor mye skal en baby sove? Jeg derimot hadde en unge med kolikk, og det viste seg hadde melkeallergi også. Jeg var fullstendig utslitt – og har en ekstrem søvnmangel. Jeg hadde en unge som ikke sov fra kl. åtte om morgenen til ti om kvelden, og bare gråt og gråt. Når jeg kom meg vekk fra han, så hørte jeg allikevel gråten hans i hodet mitt.

Helsesøsteren spurte om noen hadde kjent på barselstårene. Noen av jentene, inkludert meg selv nikker ja. Den ene jenta sier tårene har rent fordi hun vet det kommer til å bli hennes siste unge. Hun ene sier at tårene sitter løst, spesielt når hun så Extreme Makeover.

Extreme Makeover, virkelig?

Her har tårene rent i bøtter og spann fordi jeg har vært så utslitt, og knapt nok sovet i flere måneder. Ungen hylskrek i time etter time, og jeg skrek sammen med han. Desperasjonen hadde ost ut av meg, og jeg hadde knapt nok tid til å pumpe brystmelk fordi terroristen hylskrek og trengte all nærhet jeg kunne gi han.

Og tårene hadde bare rent når hun så Extreme Makover. Virkelig?

Igjen så er jeg stille.

Så er timen over, og folk går hver til sitt. Noen går i par hjemover, mens jeg går alene. Kanskje lik så greit. Jeg ble bare deppa etter timen.

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What makes or breaks a relationship?

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I have no idea how to make a relationship works for years and years. Nowadays I notice whenever marriages ends after about twenty years – let me say it again, twenty years. That’s a long time – an eternity.

That’s a person that you know inside and out – at least for many years and is the most intimate person in your life. You have spend many hours together, every day, for years. Gone on vacations, visited families, have joint friends. You have been bored together, probably raised a couple of kids and endured the strain kids are. Survived countless arguments, sickness and each others less appetizing qualities. You have navigated each others needs, the kids needs and problems, may be even fallen in love with somebody else once or twice and/or somehow endured cheating from one or both sides.

I can only assume that that the marriage slowly over time breaks down unless it suddenly ends with some event triggering it like cheating. I’m more interested in the part where the marriage degrade over time. We are talking about a person that you decide you don’t want in your life anymore, after about twenty years. Slowly you become strangers even though there are twenty years of memories and cherished times together.

I’m trying to convey a feeling here – of how it is to have such a person in your life for so long, and then it ends. I’m not able to wrap my head around it, but at the same time I understand it a little bit. I know how it is when a relationship over time becomes friendship and nothing more. Then one want to keep having that person in ones life, just not as a life partner. But twenty years is a long time, and there has to have been something more there.

There are countless articles about how to make a relationship work, but usually they are superficial and only touch the surface. When I found the found the article Who Are The “Keepers?” The Behaviors of Successful Long-Term Partners, I knew that finally the answer was there. The author, Randi Gunther, focuses on 15 traits these people have.

Let’s not kid our selves, relationship is hard – and easy at the same time. We have to work on ourselves and with the other partner all the time. I asked my boyfriend what he thought would break a relationship over time. His answer was all the compromises one had to make every day and you do it even without thinking. My answer was that the romance/magic would disappear over time, one stopped going out on dates and do something special with your partner even if it is going out for coffee and reading newspapers together. You stopped working on the relationship itself and improve it.

Most likely both are right and are aspects of the truth. The great thing about this article is that most likely the traits listed helps one in dealing with the compromises without one partner getting the brunt over a long time period. The people have qualities that let them keep the magic in the relationships they have. That doesn’t mean they don’t have to work on it and that it comes effortlessly. It just means that they deal with whatever comes up. But if only one part of the relationship are a keeper, then there’s a problem.

A keeper will know when it’s time to leave. Anybody who has watched some episodes of Dr. Phil will have noticed one thing. He always say that you aren’t ready to leave a relationship if you have any unresolved feelings.

You can read more about what traits it is in the article, but here they are:

Trait One – Keepers are self-accountable
Trait Two – Keepers can hold on to their own personal rhythms under stress
Trait Three – Keepers don’t patronize. They find a way to stay interested or they graciously bow out
Trait Four – Keepers see humor as a sacred part of relationships
Trait Five – Keepers know how to stay even
Trait Six – Keepers do not allow guilt to influence their decisions
Trait Seven – Keepers store the “good times”
Trait Eight – Keepers are authentic
Trait Nine – Keepers understand and accept their value in the marketplace
Trait Ten – Keepers look for the value in others
Trait Eleven – Keepers avoid useless energy drains
Trait Twelve – Keepers Know how to Self-Soothe
Trait Thirteen – Keepers seek continuous transformation
Trait Fourteen – Keepers take good care of themselves
Trait Fifteen – Keepers treasure the present moment

When I read the different qualities I know I’m a keeper, but I still have a lot to work on. I need to take better care of myself, learn to treasure the present moment better. I’m getting better and better at avoiding useless energy drains but I still need work in that area. I’m terrible at storing the good times – I think. But all in all, I know I’m on the right path. I just have to see if my boyfriend agree 😉


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What can the future hold for publishing houses?

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Branding doesn’t seem to be a term publishing houses are aware of, but they should be. Walking into a book store today you see a lot of merchandise that isn’t connected to books, and one can question whether bookstores as they are today will survive, especially when we see a big bookstore chain like Borders files for bankruptcy. In Norway most bookstores are owned by publishing houses and they are slowly moving towards publishing books as ebooks. So what has publishing to do with branding?

So far publishing houses has focused on the physical product that they deliver – the book. They have an untapped market – which is to provide a service connected to the books they sell. Branding the authors themselves, create forums to discuss the books, let the authors have blogs, facebook fan pages and interact with their fans.By offering their authors and readers these services, they create a multitude of marketing options for themselves. They can easily create excitement about new projects for the readers and make them aware of books that can be of interest of them (within the same genre).

They should learn a thing or two from the film industry where they create games and merchandise based upon best selling movies and books. Publishers can create merchandise like t-shirts, mugs and pens connected to bestselling books and sell it within bookstores they own or not.

If not the publishing houses do it, at least the authors themselves should look upon themselves as a brand. J.K. Rowling is onto something with the pottermore site when it’s available to the public. I have no access to the beta trials, but what I have heard is that pottermore is like a game where you play into the different chapters of the books. You get selected into a Hogwarts house based upon questions you have answered and have to find a wand that matches your personality.

There’s not many authors that has as much success as Rowling and one certainly don’t have to make things as elaborate as described above. Creating a website about the author and a forum will go a long way.

Look at one of my favorite authors: Brandon Sanderson. He has an official site, and even though I think the site itself is horrible, it’s there and I usually find what I’m looking for. On the left side you can see what he is working on and how far he is along. I love that I now see that he has Stormlight 2 up on his board even though he hasn’t started. I’m a fan of his facebook fan page and I like that I know he recently was on a Mythbuster show. I like Mythbuster too. I used to follow the podcast Writing Excuses where he and some other folks talk about how to write books. Now this is a guy after my own heart where he have multiple interests and projects at the same time.

That’s exactly the wisdom I would loved if the publishing houses had caught a sniff of. The readers want to know more of the books, the world the books are in, the authors and what shows they like and why. Readers want to buy t-shirts that only insiders/readers of the same books understand.

Do I think publishers will understand this? No, but the authors are already moving past them.


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Den norske vegankokeboken

Jeg har vært vegetarianer i 17 år nå. Jeg er glad i god mat, men jeg er ikke så glad i å lage mat. Det er et vanskelig dillemma for jeg blir jo sulten, men har for det meste lite lyst eller ork til å bruke hjerneceller på hva jeg skal lage til middag, hva jeg trenger av ingredienser og ikke minst hvor mye planlegging som kreves. Akkurat den siste er kritisk for meg. Jeg har en haug med veggis kokebøker, og jeg leter etter inspirasjon et par ganger i måneden. Hver gang jeg finner en oppskrift så er det ofte med rare måleenheter. Det var ikke før omtrent et år siden (av en alder på 33) jeg skjønte at måleenheten cups er å finne på målebegre. Det burde gi en anelse om hvor lite engasjert jeg er på kjøkkenet. Men jeg er veldig glad i mat, altså..

Så var det den hersens ingredienslista med krydre jeg aldri har hørt om før, forunderlige ingredienser som krever en tur innom innvandrerbutikk og nitidig gransking av hylle etter hylle for å se om de har akkurat det jeg er på jakt etter som jeg ikke helt vet hva er.

Når jeg hørte om Den norske vegankokeboken (DNV), så tenkte jeg at dette var vel atter en kokebok med vanskelige ingredienser og hvor matlagingsinteresse er påkrevd for å knekke koden. Det tok endel dager, men tilslutt så tenkte jeg at det var vel ingen skade i om enda en kokebok sto i bokhyllen og støvet litt. Den ville i det minste ha oppskrifter med “rett” målenhet.

Boken lå i postkassen og ventet på meg når jeg kom hjem etter nyttår (kjapt levert!), og i min sedvanlige nysgjerrighet så begynte jeg å bla igjennom boken før leiligheten hadde nærmet seg romtemperatur igjen og kofferten var åpnet. Det første som slo meg var bilder, åh så lekre bilder til omtrent alle oppskriftene. Å se den gode maten med sunnheten lysende mot meg gjorde godt i mitt gamle veggishjerte.

Dermed begynte granskingen av oppskriftene, og det var nå skatten virkelig kom frem. I svært mange oppskrifter så trenger du bare en tur til Rimi for å kjøpe det du trenger. Det er omtrent bare ingredienser som er enkle å få tak i, og som jeg har hørt om før. Et lite tips før du har boken i hånden: Kjøp inn tofu og ha et lite lager i frysen. Og om du er som meg og har prøvd å fryse tofu og resultatet etterpå var mindre heldig: Boken forklarer hvordan du skal behandle tofu. Jeg kan visst behandle tofu på mange måter har jeg nå lært. Det tok bare 17 år å finne ut av det.

I denne boken er det praktiske og enkle tips som enhver kan finne nyttig. Jeg har fått nok av luftige “forslag” som at man bare kan prøve ut nye grønnsaker fra den lokale innvandrersjappa. Jeg har ikke fantasi til å vite hva jeg skal gjøre med nye grønnsaker unntatt å la de få gro i kjøleskapet og lage sitt eget økosystem.  DNV forteller om vegetariske tacokrydder med veggis mince(kjøttdeig) som man kan få kjøpt i enkelte butikker, spesifikke krydre, sauser etc. som jeg har hørt om før og vet hvor jeg kan finne. Du finner luftige forslag ala “prøv gjerne andre krydre for variasjon” i denne boken også, men da har det blitt gitt et håndfast forslag først.

Så til min synd… egg. Jeg spiser egg imot min egen vilje. Jeg har gitt opp egg over lengre tid flere ganger, men så er det alltid noe som hanker meg inn igjen. Som oftest kaker, jeg er glad i det. DNV har mange kakeoppskrifter uten egg inkludert mine favoritter: vafler og eplekake. Det er en oppskrift på sjokoladekake der også. Jeg har ikke prøvd å lage den, men når jeg ser på bildet så ser det ut til å være voksen versjonen av sjokoladekake. Jeg elsker barnebursdag sjokoladekaker, og jeg ønsker så sårt en eggfri oppskrift på det.

Jeg prøvde meg på curry ris oppskriften i boken. Det var forunderlig å ha epler i en risrett, og det var ikke helt min greie. I tillegg var ikke salt inkludert i oppskriften, så jeg endte opp med et lag “allaround” krydder. Jeg lærte enda en ting. Første gangen skal jeg lage oppskriften slik boken sier, for det er veldig nyttig. Neste gang skal jeg tilpasse den slik jeg liker det best – ikke nødvendigvis med krydder, men med andre grønnsaker. For maten var god, men jeg vet hvordan jeg vil like den enda bedre. Ikke at det er første gang jeg har gjort det, men det er første gang resultatet ble så bra ved første forsøk. Og det er kanskje første (tredje) gang jeg faktisk fulgte en oppskrift til punkt og prikke.

Ved oppskriftene så er det angitt ca. hvor lang tid det tar å lage retten. Det stemte ganske bra med meg, bare legg på en ekstra 10 minutter for TTT – ting tar tid.

Boken har et eget kapittel for pålegg, lunsj og frokost – et område hvor jeg er grundig lei av brødskiver med ost på.

DNV har egne guider for seitan og burgere. Flott!

Som en konklusjon på det hele så er det beste med boken at 98% av ingrediensene kan du finne på Rimi og guidene er fine å ha. Denne boken tar for seg fundamentet ved matlaging og gir mange tips som har gjort meg klokere rundt matlaging og gir meg kunnskap jeg kan bruke utenfor boken og dens oppskrifter. Oppskriftene er enkle, og det tar meg bare noen minutter å finne oppskrifter jeg kan lage. Og for meg så er dette faktisk en liten revolusjon. Takk! Jeg trengte det sårt.

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Japan, Oslo 22nd July.

Pregnancy (nausea, hunger, back pains, heartburns, walking pain, exhaustion, huge), gallstones, Simon, cholic, milk allergy, extreme sleep deprivation, gallstones, exhaustion.

I’m happy that year is over.

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Wonderful internet

I come across things on the internet that are beautiful and I want to share, so here’s some catch I’ve found these past few days. A video that shows the beauty of our world, a happy christmas article and a video shot in different framerates.

David Attenborough – Wonderful World.


Anonymous donors help people with layaway accounts (“poor” people save money for specific items) at Kmart, especially those who have items for children. The article brought a bit of tears to my eyes because I can’t imagine how hard it must be not being able to purchase gifts for your child – or even clothes. Read here

10,000fps!? – The Slow Mo Guys

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Will Kindle DX be discontinued?

I have been wanting Kindle DX since spring this year which is a long time. I expected a release of new Kindles this fall, and lo and behold, Kindle 4 and Kindle Fire was released as I expected. I was surprised when Kindle DX, the gadget I really wanted wasn’t part of the upgrade and I wondered what the future for this device would be.

Since then a lot of forum threads have been about the future of Kindle DX, especially when it was offered with a 120$ reduction in price at Black Friday. Suddenly Kindle DX was offered in a nice price range, and I started to question wether to buy it or not. For several days I went back and forth, one moment deciding to buy it and two minutes later decide to wait on the decision a little bit longer. I googled and read every thread I found about Kindle DX and this nice sell. In the end I decided to save my bucks for now.

I have no statistics to lean on, and Amazon reveals only what they want on how many devices they sell. What I have is my impressions.

98% of the people with a Kindle DX loves it, it’s their favorite gadget and over 80% use it every day. Dedicated e-readers are a niche market, and such a large screen is even more of a niche. Most people use it for two things, read ebooks and their own pdf’s and the 9.7 ” screen is the big selling point. Did I say they were in love with the DX?

Most people think that Kindle DX will be discontinued and with good reason:

  • The firmware hasn’t been upgraded since May 2010.
  • The DX isn’t even on the front page on Amazon.
  • To find the DX in the store you have to know it’s there – by looking at the comparison matrix.

The DX has received no love, and since most think of it as such a niche market they conclude that it will be discontinued. If you look at DX as a separate product you are probably right.

My take is that the question whether or not the DX will be discontinued doesn’t matter.

Currently the dedicated e-readers (kindles) are all 6 inches, which is very small. The Kindles are differentiated by using buttons as interactions, touch screen or a keyboard.

There are already rumors about Kindle Fire will be offered with a larger screen, and I think this will happen with the e-readers as well. Screen size will be another choice available on Kindle. The question is what screen sizes will Amazon offer.

I think Kindle Fire and new Kindles will be offered up for sale in summer or fall of 2012 even though there are no rumors around to support my claim. I will purchase the largest e-reader screen that are at least 8 inches.

The first e-reader with color has arrived by Hanvon, but it’s probably to early for Amazon to adopt it. I would have loved it, though.


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16.12.2011 – Dagens kvinne”vennlige” nyheter

Nettavisen – Jenter skjønner ikke risikoen. Artikkelen handler om folk på fylla, mer spesifikt de som jobber i ambulanse og må håndtere forskjellige situasjoner, men overskriften fokuserer på jentene.

Nettavisen – Kan menn og kvinner bare være venner? Fortsatt er denne på forsiden, og etter å ha tenkt litt mer så kunne overskriften heller vært “Menn vil ikke bare være venner”.

Nettavisen – Nå kan far også amme. Omhandler far, men jeg kan neppe si at denne artikkelen er negativt ladet, heller løsningsorientert på noe jeg aldri har sett på som et problem. – Lei innpåslitne mannfolk. Jøss!

e24 – Kvinner takler dårlig mannlig konkurranse. Fortsatt.

Etter å ha tenkt meg om så er juletider et feil tidspunkt å lete etter slike artikler. Jeg burde ha ventet til sommeren, for da bugner det av “billige jenter på fylla i tyrkia” og “derfor er det vanskelig å få norske jenter til sengs” artikler.  Status: to kvinne negative artikkler og en mannenegativ artikkel.

Så ja.. jeg får nok bare vente til sommeren for da vil det florere av de.

To be continued.

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Dagens kvinne”vennlige” nyheter

Jeg har sett meg lei på alle nyhetene som fokuserer på kjønnet kvinner. Overskriftene er som oftest negativt ladet, og jeg har kun opplevd en gang at en artikkel har fokusert negativt på menn for et år siden eller noe. Det var en artikkel knyttet til at menn syter når de er syke.

Det er et fokus på kvinner som menn ikke opplever. Kvinner blir vurdert på alt fra klesdrakt til kompetanse for jobben. Det kan være relevant å vurdere disse tingene, men det er problematisk når det hele tiden blir knyttet opp mot kjønn.

Så dette er dagens kvinne”vennlige” nyheter på forsidene i media.

Nettavisen – Eli, hva med å la Carl få seg litt i kveld? Som om litt pulings skaper mer intelligente valg. Hva med overskriften – Tips for Carl som øker intelligensnivået i valgene som tas.

Nettavisen – Kan menn og kvinner bare være venner? Denne var faktisk kjønnsnøytral i overskriften, hurra!

Overraskende nok så fant jeg ingen overskrifter på, men det kunne vært nok av overskrifter knyttet til at menn er horebukker med tanke på overskriftene.

E24 – Kvinner takler dårlig mannlig konkurranse. Javel, det er visst et mål at vi kvinner skal bli som menn og fungere som menn. Jeg så en artikkel lengre ned om at “drittsekker må sies opp”, men det sto ingenting om at det gjaldt menn.

VG – Mødre slår barn mer enn fedre.

Og selv om denne artikkelen ble publisert 08. desember, så må jeg nesten ta med denne også. – aggressive barn er mammas feil. Selvfølgelig – far står jo bare å ser på.

Så idag var det bare 3 artikler som var nedsettende om kvinner, en nøytral og en påslenger fra tidligere dato.

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Gadget for new years blues

In autumn I wrote about what I wanted – Samsung Galaxy Tab 10.1 64 GB. It’s now Christmas times and I have put my eyes on some other goodness – Asus eee pad transformer prime. That’s how it goes when Samsung is late in selling what I want. Before I will be able to get my hands on a 64 GB Tab, a better tablet will be on the market.

It will come to Norway in January (or February – when have releases ever come on time?) and it will be light, thinner than Samsung Galaxy Tab, will be upgradable to Android 4.0, it will be much faster (tegra 3), better battery times,  and with a keyboard for only 5000,- NOK. The best selling point (for me) is that it will have support for hdmi, usb and microSD.

The design makes me drool.

The only drawback is that it will not have 3G support, which I find surprising. They include almost everything you could want in this tablet, but they leave 3G out? Not that it matters much if you have a half decent phone that support internet sharing which will give internet access when there is no  wifi spots nearby.

This is the one I will buy. Too bad I will not get it for Christmas.

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Christmas trees

As Christmas is getting closer every day, I’m finding funny christmas trees to put me in the good mood.

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Or what about a Grolsch beer bottle tree?

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